All our life, it’s been the two of us. We’ve never even lived in different cities (except for that short stint of hers in Paris, but I was at peace ‘coz I knew she was coming back). We were the last 2 of our precious clan of 4. My 2 older siblings moved to different countries quite young and my baby and I stayed back with the ‘rents. We were so close in age and appearance that we spent a good part of our childhood getting dressed at twins (courtesy of Mom). The perils of boarding school, we suffered together; the physical affection of our parents, we enjoyed together; and it was also together that we metaphorically ‘boarded the boat’ to Canada ‘in search of a better life’. In all our lives, the furthest we’ve ever lived from each other is 20 mins away. For the past year, she’s only been 5 mins away and every other time before that, she’s been in my room or across the hall.
It’s crazy that I have to say goodbye to you indefinitely. I don’t even know how to do that. To say goodbye to ‘my person’. The countless things you’ve seen me go through, and the way you have supported me, and encouraged me, and laughed with me, and grieved with me, like no one else in the world would have known how.
My ultimate trio is now scattered across the world. Cameroon. Ireland. Canada. Because my older and other sister who shortly after us moving to Canada became an integral part of this close sisterhood also moved away from Canada earlier this year. Anyone who knows me knows, my sisters are my everything, my safe place, my home and my heart. My best friends are no longer just minutes or hours away.
I feel like I have lost some parts of myself in these major transitions that 2020 has orchestrated. But I am sooo proud of them. Changing the world one policy and one event a a time. I can’t help but smile through my sadness. ‘Coz seeing my sisters make these bold, scary, necessary and God-ordained moves makes me the proudest I’ve ever been in my life.
Now, I have to go from being a sister-girl to just a girl. And that’s gonna require some gowing up.
Feel free to share some major transitions of your below, I would love to read them.
Until next time…
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