Isn’t it crazy how your wedding day is probably the day you loved your partner the least (for lack of a better word) when you compare it to the rest of your life?
But no one can tell you that on that specific day because you will swear that your love in that specific moment is EVERYTHING. While that may be true, it is also true that your partner will come to mean a 1000x more to you as time goes by.
Before your wedding day and shortly after, you are so heavily concerned by everything wedding. It has to be the best day! You have to out do the last wedding you attended! You have to have the best everything! Be the best everything! Do the best everything! The day after your wedding day, you’re thinking of everything that went wrong, sometimes wishing you could get a do-over.
It’s only years later that you can safely tell yourself that was not the point. Up to a year after my wedding, i would see other people’s weddings and think to myself, ‘I wish I had that, I wish I did that’.
After being in this thing for what? 4 short years now. After going through some stuff… All i can think of when i see an engaged couple or when i attend a wedding is, I hope you chose the right person. I hope you chose your person.
Because marriage is no joke. After the dress, the flowers, the cake, you go home to each other. You go home to; household chores, stressful conversations, ugly arguments, merging families, raising children, ageing parents, losing babies, long distance jobs, not to talk of infidelity, infertility, self-esteem issues, and assault in worse cases. You better have chosen your person!
It’s not all bad, its plenty of good too and I pray that for you, the good more than makes up for the bad. That you both work on the bad together. That the bad teaches you some things the good never would have.
Laying in bed next to my person right now, looking at him sleep and just thinking to myself; I had NO IDEA what you would come to mean to me.
I did not have the full understanding that day, on December 30th, that I had just scratched the surface of this love.
That watching you evolve, into the man that you are, the husband that you are, the father that you are, would actually be the best part.
That walking this journey with you through the joys and through the pains would actually make me appreciate that commitment every. single. day.
Get you a husband that will make sure that your phone is charging on your side of the bed before he goes to sleep. One that will shut your bedroom door and handle the kids when he knows you really need those extra hours of sleep. Just kidding… Mine is not yours. Just make sure you choose your person, your safe place.
My ‘I do’ on our wedding was like one of those donuts with the sweet fillings inside. I had seen, tasted and loved the sweet dough and the soft powder on the outside; but I had no idea of the tasty surprise that awaited me in the filling and the fact that it would ultimately be the best part.
I choose you.
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